Author: Farhat
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. (Quran 30:21)
According to the Quran, the purpose of marriage is to attain tranquility and peace, which can never be achieved through impulsive sexual fulfillment unless it is accompanied by mutual love, affection, caring, and sharing, which are all part and parcel of a fulfilling and productive marriage relationship. Islam, as we know it holistically from the sources, is a balanced way of looking at things.
Following are the 8 important factors that can InShaAllah strengthen a marriage relationship in Islam:
- Good Attitude
- Help
- Trust
- Respect
- Joy
- Forgiveness
- Time
- Worship
A Muslim must always have a positive attitude towards his or her life. Say “Alhamdulillah” (Praise be to Allah) for whatever Allah gives us (or doesn’t give us). Accept each other completely. Forgive and forget the shortcomings. As our Prophet (ﷺ) said, if you dislike one of his/her characteristics, you will be pleased with another.
Our Prophet (ﷺ) stressed the importance of men helping their wives and as mentioned in the Quranic introduction above, Allah tells us the importance of women being mates and helpers to their husbands. This is a real “win-win” situation. Husband and wife helping and supporting each other will result in a strong relationship.
Muslims, men and women are ordered to be trustworthy and follow the example of our prophet (ﷺ) as the “Trustworthy”. They should never expose their secrets to a third person. Prophet (ﷺ) said in Sahih Muslim that the most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of judgment will be those men who divulges their wife’s secrets to others.
You get respect when you give respect. This is mandatory for all Muslims toward all people, how much more toward the spouse?
Our prophet (peace be upon him) used to entertain his wife Ayesha (peace be upon her) and she used to play and race with him.
Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu’minin:
while she was on a journey along with the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ): I had a race with him (the Prophet) and I outstripped him on my feet. When I became fleshy, (again) I had a race with him (the Prophet) and he outstripped me. He said: This is for that outstripping. (Sunan Abi Dawud)
Clearly, this is one of the most important aspects of Islam. Whoever does not forgive – will not be forgiven. This comes from Allah, Himself. We must learn to forgive each others for a good spouse relationship in Islam.
Spend time together. Go for walks. Take a bus ride. Visit a friend or someone who is ill (you get big rewards for that). Fast together on Mondays & Thursdays if you can. Make hajj – this is a great way to get a “new start” on life.
Our prophet (ﷺ) used to lead his wife in Prayer, even though he lived connected to the mosque. He told us not to make our homes like grave yards. We should offer some of our Sunnah prayers at home.
More Articles about Marriage Relationship in Islam
- http://soundvision.com/info/islam/marriage.tips.asp
- http://www.islamswomen.com/marriage/intro_to_marriage.php
- http://www.alquranclasses.com/family-relationships-islam/
- http://www.detailedquran.com/quran_data/The%20Husband%20wife%20relationship%20in%20Islam.htm
- http://islamgreatreligion.wordpress.com/2009/07/13/better-husband-and-wife-relationship/
- http://www.answering-christianity.com/karim/women_rights_for_sex.htm
Jazakallahul Khari
alhamdhulillaaa
Jazzakallah
Ma sha Allah
alhamdulillah
Jazakallah khair.
I learnt couple of stuff frm the information provided
MashaAllah these are really great, if couple follow these all in their life so they can make their life so beautiful.
Realy golden words for built the relatioship between a husbend and wife…jazak Allah
Simply the best words
Plz guys help me cuz my husband strongly hates me. But I don,t know why I love my husband so much it,s totally arranged marriage,plz tell me some of the wazeefa for strong bond between me &my husband .JazakAllahKhair
Assalamu Alaikum sister. I’m sorry to say that I’m not qualified to answer your question but I can help you with some links online. Insha Allah this will help you to solve your problem:
# Few types of prayers:
1. Most important and highly recommended: Tahajjud prayer
[Abu Hurairah quoted that the Messenger of Allah, as saying: “Our Lord descends to the lowest heaven during the last third of the night, inquiring: ‘Who will call on Me so that I may respond to him? Who is asking something of Me so I may give it to him? Who is asking for My forgiveness so I may forgive him?”]
2. Fulfillment of wants (صلاة الحاجة) – http://www.salatenglish.at-tahreek.com/salatenglish/19.html
3. Seeking guidance (صلاة الإستخارة) – http://www.salatenglish.at-tahreek.com/salatenglish/21.html
# Duas:
– http://duas.com/
– http://www.azkaar.com/english
– http://www.duaandazkar.com/
# Ask a question:
– http://islamqa.info/en/sendq
# Links
– http://turntoislam.com/community/threads/powerful-dua.26025/
– http://www.suhaibwebb.com/personaldvlpt/hook-up-with-allah-allah-will-hook-you-up/ (Part-1)
– http://www.suhaibwebb.com/relationships/withthedivine/hook-up-with-the-quran-allah-will-hook-you-up/ (Part-2)
Insha Allah all problems will be solved soon.
Jazakallah Khair
Sabar
alhumdulillaah may allah guide all of our muslim brothers and sisters to the best of understanding. to live happily with each other
I have been unfaithful to my wife. It is a great sin Astaghfirullah I am praying to Allah everyday for forgiveness. But my wife has left me please tell me what I can do to get her back. I realise what I did is terrible please help me.
FYI & share it .
Jazakallah
I requested to all Muslims to follow the Islamic education and Qurran and Sunnah to enjoy real Islamic life.
Ghulam e Mustafa
thanks…..
MA SHA ALLAH
I accept all these advise. Thanks for this site and holder
Very good efforts be blessed
Am Yunus from Nigeria ,am pls
with the advice
I’m from kenya.Thank you,for the advice.
Really Good. Thank you for Sharing This information.
It is Alhamdulillah to be reminded of the uswa of Rasulullah (sws) a husban towards his wife/wives… Surely Allah make things clear… Alhamdulillah Rabbil Alamin…
Allahu Akbar… Alhamdulillahi Rabil Alamin. This is going to help me a great deal. Jazak Allahu hairan.
With all your points I know my rights towards my husband and my husband, s right towards me
Thanks for sharing from narrated to ahadith and Quran directly..
My husband is kind of person who doesn’t forgive. 😒😒😒
I am working in Dubai and my wife working in USA and I keep calling my wife to come and stay with me and work online but she is making excuses.. so please give solution what I can do..